Your Circle! Who are the five people you spend the most time with?

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Will Smith said it best: “You can tell how far in life you’ll go by the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with.” This quote has been said in many ways but the theme is still the same. I remember when someone special to me told me and a relative this, I received it more than my relative did but I still hadn't took it to heart and applied it to my life. My relative on the other hand laughed and said so you're telling me, "I'm going to be and they listed all the worst scenarios possible referring to situations their friends were in. As time went on those things came true. They found themselves in a series of unfortunate events and I quickly learned the importance of  "picking friends like you pick your fruit"- Erykah Badu.

Similar to the law of attraction, you are the sum of your thoughts and the images you see daily. If you constantly fellowship with people in negative circumstances you're attracting that into your life. You ever been in a good mood then encountered a negative co-worker or friend that complained about life and had "woe is me " complex then you find yourself not feeling as happy and good as if their negative energy leeched on to you?!  Well that's a sign you need to limit your time with a person, pray for them, and  possibly love them from afar.


Love,
Christina

Too Good Too Be True

When things are going right I get suspicious, so when I meet a good guy and he likes me I am constantly searching for that "aha gotcha you slimy sucker" moment. I am usually testing him and waiting with such anticipation to catch him in a lie. I cant really enjoy the experience of getting to know him because I am so busy trying to get the experience over with by trying to immediately figure out his game so I dont have to talk to him or invest feelings into him.

Then I remembered awhile back I saw Brene Brown on Super Soul Sunday talking about how we sometimes have a dress rehearsal for tragedy when everything is going right, similar to that age old feeling "too good to be true."

Here is Brene on Katie Couric show.

Dear Ladies

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Ladies I need your opinion, so early 2012 I met a guy. We had great conversation and could talk to each other for hours. We once went to lunch together but other than that no dates, phone conversations, kisses, hugs, nothing romantic. I had a crush on him and I sensed he had a crush on me but it kinda faded once I learned his extremist ideology on certain controversial subjects. However, we stayed in contact, HE WOULD always check in on me periodically via text. Last month he even said "we needed to talk and catch up". He would accuse me of being "Hollywood" and not contacting him, respond to his text etc. lol 

Fast forward to Tuesday, he texts me and does the usual how are you, where have you been, jokes about rappers and entertainers. So on Thurs I was curious to know if my new friend knew Mr. Periodically Check In Guy since they went to the same college. I checked my new friend's Facebook friends list and up came Mr Periodically Check In Guy's profile. His profile pic had him sitting next to a girl in a wedding dress and I immediately debated in my head whether this girl was his wife or sister. After going through his FB profile and hers lol. I can state without a shadow of a doubt that is his new beautiful wife as of June 2013. Looking back we ALWAYS had innocent conversation, like I said nothing romantic happened between us but you would think he would mention he was married or engaged during the mini check ins, how are yous, and what have you been up tos, etc. My question to you is am I justified in being shocked and appalled in finding out he is a newlywed?!? 

Sincerely Shocked,

Eligible Bachelorette